It’s hard not to love a person this great!
Have you ever noticed that kind people are also
incredibly content in their life?
That’s because being kind literally increases our
levels of health and happiness. Research shows
this impacts our relationships positively, as well.
Kindness helps keeps couples together. The more
your partner is on the receiving end of your
goodwill, the more likely they are to shower you
with love in return.
Kindness is pretty awesome. It creates an overall
climate of trust, acceptance and comfort. And let’s
be honest — in this age of violence, war, general
snarkiness, and online cruelty, “being kind” is it’s
own form of social rebellion. What a fun way to
“stick it” to an overly harsh world.
While over-the-top “nice” people tend to annoy us,
genuine kindness is a trait pretty much everyone
appreciates and admires. So what’s the difference
between that amazing, kind person everyone
adores and, well … you? Here a seven things they
do every single day that make people want to be
around them:
1. They’re kind to themselves. They know that being
spontaneous and generous requires having solid
stores of your own positive energy. So, they take
care of meeting their own needs first, before giving
to others. As a result, receiving from them feels
like a true gift.
2. They’re grateful. Truly and deeply grateful … for
life and all its blessings, its challenges, and its
lessons. In every circumstance, they take time to
find and acknowledge the kernel of good — viewing
every situation with a gla$$ half full mindset. They
still acknowledge what’s challenging, but in facing
it, they strive to help others keep perspective, too.
3. They truly listen. Even when they have something
to add, they know how to just listen first to what
others say, so that the person talking feels
respected and understood. They connect fully,
listen with interest, and don’t censor or talk-over
what others are saying.
4. They’re confident. Their self-confidence allows
them to indulge their big-hearted nature without
expecting anything in return. And others find this
quality incredibly attractive. Every day, kind people
look for opportunities to give someone the benefit
of the doubt — and they do. Because they’re
confident in themselves, they don’t need to take
others down for every misstep.
5. They genuinely care. Kind people pay attention
and your happiness and well-being are on their
mind. While they respect personal boundaries,
they support and celebrate what serves your
higher good. They want to know how your day is,
how your mom is, and that the people in your life
treat you right.
6. They laugh often. Kind people see the humor and
irony in situations, without the snarkiness and
meanness others typically show. Life is funny! And
these awesome people know that sometimes the
best gift you can give someone is just helping them
laugh and lighten up. Dropping a witty comment at
just the right moment — they are masters light-
hearted comedy.
7. They’re respectful. They thrive on diversity but
don’t expect others to share their opinions. They
accept your right to your own viewpoint, even if
they don’t agree with it. And they would never
shame or embarra$$ someone in any way —
verbally or non-verbally. They look out for others
and try to protect them from feeling small in front
of others.
Small acts of kindness make a big difference.
Grand gestures don’t always mean more than small
kindnesses. After all, it’s the “little things” that show
an awareness of others (who they are and what
they love). Kind people put their love for you into
action, through small thoughtful gestures that
show they care enough to pay attention. Little
things like: sending cards, making a phone call,
buying presents.
But life is busy, times get hectic and we don’t
always have time for those extra actions.
We will, however, always have time for kindness
because it is the real intention and emotion behind
those actions. Follow up with those gestures when
you have the time and opportunity and watch how
fast those around you begin to think you’re the
kindest person they know.
But when you don’t, still make the time to take care
of yourself, truly listen in a conversation, and be
deeply grateful. And just see if the world doesn’t
seem a little … or a lot… nicer.