Dear to-be couples, you
might be busy with all your wedding
preparations, making list of things to
arrange for, going on shopping sprees
and deciding on honeymoon
destinations. Surely the dreams of the
future life with your beloved would be
making your heart throb with
excitement. But, in the midst of all the
wedding mayhem you might overlook
one of the most important things- your
relationship. Marriages are made in
heaven but they have not been decreed
to be perfect and before you plunge on
to take the wedding vows, here are
certain things you need to discuss to
ensure a stronger marriage.
1. Money
How to manage finances is the most
important thing, especially for the two
people who share a single roof and
enter into a lifetime commitment.
Differences in money management
between spouses often become reasons
for fights. For instance, if one of you
likes to splurge while the other one
wants to save for the rainy day, this can
be a problem later on. Discuss about an
approximate budget, the expenses likely
to be incurred, whether you prefer
having joint accounts or would like
separate bank accounts. As marriage
counselor Dr. Paul Sago says, “It is
always better to have everything joint or
“ours” in marriage rather than being
selfish and thinking about one’s own
self.”
2. In-Laws
Another pre-wedding topic about which
couples should clear matters is the way
to deal with in-laws. This is especially
true if the in-laws might be too
interfering at times. It is important to
know, whether your partner is ready to
bear the encumbrance of his future
family on his shoulders without
depending on his parents and the likes.
Also, talk about your preference like
whether you want to live in a nuclear
family or a joint one after marriage.
3. Children
Children are truly gifts of God but that
does not mean everyone would wish to
have children just immediately after
marriage. Therefore, broaching the topic
in front of your partner and clearing out
issues as to when he or she wants to
have kids is essential. Talk on how many
kids you both plan to have and when?
This is the important conversation to
have with your partner before
committing.
4. s*x
s*x forms an integral and beautiful part
of a married life and talking about it is
one of the most essential things to do
before you walk down the aisle. Have a
tete-a-tete as to what exactly s*xual
intimacy means to your would-be
spouse. Clearing these things out
beforehand will be beneficial for your
relationship in the long run
5. Faith and Religion
Finally, whether you are of the same
religion or from different spiritual
backgrounds, discussing about matters
of religion is essential. Talk about your
individual faiths and beliefs, ways of
worship, compliance to raising children
according to specific religious beliefs
and many other important topics before
you take the plunge.
Even perfect couples tend to bicker due
to lack of communication. Marriage is
the union of two souls so make it last a
lifetime. So, have these conversations
with your would-be before you take this
big plunge.