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Pa$$ionate Couple in the bed | RapidEye
When life gets busy, one of the first things to go in
a relationship is $ex. Couples are too tired, too full,
too stressed, too distracted. Simply put: not in the
mood.
We get it — there are a million and one legitimate
reasons not to have $ex tonight, tomorrow or the
day after that. But there are plenty of couples out
there who are doing the deed five, six, seven or
more times a week . We recently asked married
HuffPost readers who have $ex every night (barring
things like sickness, business trips or other
extenuating circumstances, of course) how it has
improved their lives and relationships. Below are
13 good reasons to get it on with your spouse on a
near daily basis.
1. It provides some much-needed couple time.
“My husband and I have $ex every night because
it’s a moment in the day that is just about the two
of us. We are parents to a toddler, so when we lay
him down for bed each night, we can then spend
the rest of the night expressing how we feel about
each other physically. Having $ex allows us to be
pa$$ionate, to show affection and we enjoy
pleasing each other.” – Christie M. of Arkansas;
married 3 years
2. It leads to more PDA outside of the bedroom.
“We’re very physically expressive with one another,
even when we’re not having $ex. We hold hands a
lot, he slaps my b*tt when I’m working in the
kitchen, I nuzzle his neck when he’s working on
research papers at the desk.” – Jesse N. of Ontario,
Canada; married less than one year
3. It can be a workout if you do it right.
“When you have four kids and no time, $ex is the
best exercise.” – Tera M. of Oklahoma, married
less than one year
4. It gets you out of your head for a little while.
“$ex for me, and now for my husband since we’ve
gotten together, is a complete escape from reality.
We are both very much into role-playing and it’s
such a wonderful feeling to not have to be me for a
while, to completely shut off from our crappy day-
to-day existence and strictly be about ourselves
and our enjoyment.” – Sara C., of Panama City,
Florida; married one year
5. It builds trust.
“New positions and $exual frontiers take a lot of
trust in your partner to not screw it up, and that
kind of trust is best earned after several years of
personal and joint bodily exploration.” – Kristena
M. of Richmond, Virginia; married 10 years
6. It’s a way to connect without speaking.
“$ex is a vital part of marriage. It brings couples
together in a way that other things don’t. What I
mean is that it promotes togetherness, snuggling
and cuddling, and it’s a way to connect without
words.” – Teresa F. of Nashville, Michigan; married
37 years
7. You might end up arguing less.
“We know when something is off with each other.
And most importantly, we don’t fight, argue or
bicker! We sit down and talk things out. Staying
connected like that helps us communicate better
outside of the bedroom.” – Libby S. of Indianapolis,
Indiana; married 2 years
8. It forces you to get creative.
“Being intimate so often, and sharing what each
person needs and wants allows the freedom of
creativity. There is no position or situation either of
us has ever denied the other. This makes us each
feel more and more comfortable to share
[fantasies] or point out a hot girl or guy, and say
what we’d like to do with them in bed.” – Arlene B.
of Monterey, California; engaged for 3 years
9. It’s easier to schedule than a formal date
night.
“I think it’s the easiest way to have some romance
since we really don’t do date nights or vacations
alone. Plus, I know my husband enjoys it.” – Emily
D. of Pleasanton, California; married 12 years
10. One word: Orgasms.
“The benefit for me is that it feels simply amazing. I
also love to see how my husband gets lost in the
moment. Being able to see that level of complete
satisfaction on his face is so satisfying to me.” –
Stacia L. of Texas; married 11 years
11. It improves self-esteem.
“It has brought a new level of happiness for me
personally, and has helped my self-esteem
knowing that after two kids, my husband still thinks
I’m $exy.” – Karri H. of Alaska, married 6 years
12. It’s a guaranteed mood booster.
“He sings in the shower after morning $ex, nearly
every time. This is all the proof I need that $ex is a
mood enhancer for him. And I’d like to think that
good mood carries over into other parts of his day.
I love knowing that I’m the reason he’s smiling at
work.” – Jesse N. of Ontario, Canada; married less
than one year
13. If you use it, you won’t lose it.
“If $ex is such a large part of your routine and a big
priority, it never becomes low priority or gets
weird or awkward. And you won’t have to worry
about how to resume or reconnect. Just don’t ever
stop doing it!” – Lara G. of Austin, Texas; married
24 years
Some responses have been edited and condensed.