Here are ten.
1. Be honest, even when you don’t want to.
Honesty is hard, especially when we’re afraid that
our relationship is in jeopardy. If you can establish
complete honesty, you can get through the
situations that would typically end most
relationships.
2. Open up about your feelings.
It’s hard for us as men to open up and express
what we’re feeling. There is a stereotype that it’s
not ‘”manly.” It is, however, vital to our
relationships. Open up and let someone else in.
3. Continue to improve yourself.
One important way to feel good is to continue to
improve yourself. When you feel good about
yourself, you are a more confident man.
Confidence is $exy. Continue to be the best version
of yourself.
4. Commit to a healthy s*x life.
s*x is an important part of every marital
relationship…note the word ‘marital’. If you can
commit to getting in touch with how you feel and
what turns you on, you will be a better lover. It will
benefit your relationship in ways you may not have
anticipated.
5. Do work that matters.
We spend 40 plus hours in some form of work.
That time affects every other area of our life. If you
are doing work that doesn’t fulfill you, it will
depress and stress you out. You can find or create
work you love, even in today’s economy.
6. Live instead of exist.
Truly living doesn’t mean you head to Spain and
run with the bulls. It means you commit to never
settling in your life. It means that you do whatever
it takes to live your dream life.
7. Live each day fully present.
No man is guaranteed a moment past right now.
We can’t live our life for the future; we have to live
each day fully present. We have to be in each
moment and fully living it.
8. Show physical affection.
Hugging, kissing, and touching are an important
part of keeping a healthy relationship. If we love
that person, we should want to feel that love in a
physical way. Keep your relationship steamy with
small displays of physical affection.
9. Control your anger.
It’s hard not to reaction at that moment and with a
visible outburst. However, a lack of control could
put you in a situation you’ll regret. If you love them,
do what you can to control your anger.
10. Treat every day like you’re still in the
honeymoon phase.
The honeymoon phase in your relationship may be
over, but it doesn’t mean you can’t act as if it
weren’t. Wake up every day and treat the person
you love as if it were the first time you realized it.
Love is not a feeling. It’s a decision. You have to
wake up every day and choose to love the person
you made a commitment to. Your feelings will
come and go, but you control the choices and
decisions you make.
If this person is your true love, decide to do the
work instead of giving into how you feel.
Love is amazing. It takes you to places and gives
you feelings you didn’t think you were capable of
experiencing. It can be wonderful, or it can hurt
you. If you’re in a toxic relationship, it may be time
to call it quits. Either way, getting honest with
yourself and about the kind of life you want to live
will help you with your choices.
What little things do you do every day that prove
your love?
This article was originally published at The Good
Men Project.