A relationship is dependent on trust.
Especially, when it comes to a long-
distance relationship, it needs more
emotional commitment and trust than a
regular one. This is one aspect on which
many relationships fall flat! The physical
distance in many relationships creates
an emotional void. Is your relation also
heading towards that? Here are some
signs to help you see some hidden
dangers in your love-paradise!
1. Frequent arguments
Every couple fights once in a while, but
you can feel a difference when it is not
just a normal fight. Frequent arguments,
especially on matters that never created
problems between you before, should
trigger an alert in your mind.
2. Dramatic changes in communication
You might suddenly find your partner
talking to you in an unusual manner. He
or she need not be outright rude, but it
is the indifference that is actually worse.
If you find your partner making too
many excuses about not finding time to
talk to you, it is time you get a signal.
3. One-sided effort
Right from the ‘Good morning’ message
to that ‘Good night call’, are you always
the first one to text or call? Your partner
is online, but never makes a first attempt
to ping or respond to your chat. Well, all
these are clear signs of differences in
priorities! It is best to talk to your
partner about it, because there might be
some other reason or a problem that
could be troubling them. However, if
she/he constantly avoids such
discussions then it may be a signal that
your garden is no longer so rosy!
4. Stopped sharing
If your partner stops sharing things
with you, behaves secretive, or stops
calling you with those adorable
nicknames then its time to churn those
rational wheels of your mind.
5. The good friend talk!
If you suddenly find your partner talking
more like ‘just a good friend’, expect
something wrong. The journey from
good friends to lovers is great, but the
journey backwards is miserable.
6. No more future talks
Another thing that should alert you is a
sudden stop to those loveable future
talks that you used to have with your
partner. If your partner has begun to
avoid such talks with you, then may be
he or she is no more interested to have
a future with you.
7. More an obligation than wish
This is one question you should ask
yourself. Is there a ‘have to’ or ‘should’
that comes in your mind every time you
make a call to your partner? There are
times when you might not realise but
your actions can move you away from
your partner. Talking to the person, we
love, can never be like a chore or a part
of your daily ‘to-do-list’. When your wish
to hear his/her voice becomes an
obligation, you better understand that
your paradise is in deep trouble!
Finally, believe your instincts. There are
times in a long-distance relationship
when nothing in particular is wrong yet
you feel that something is not right. Do
not avoid such instances. At the same
time you would want to make sure that
you are not over reacting. It can be just
a bad day, so make sure you read the
signs right. And go for a final conclusion
only after a detailed analysis of the
situation and after talking and
consulting people close to you and your
partner. This will help you to understand
your partner’s situation really well and
get a clear picture.